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The trees know (and you can too). . . . . . . . . .
I cut a tree down at the front of my house last week. Not a whole, big tree, a small one that had grown pretty wild. It sprawled so far...
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May 302 min read


A reminder from your therapist that nothing lasts forever. . . . . . . . . .
I saw my first butterfly of the year yesterday. A beautiful reminder of how things come and go. When I looked in the mirror this...
julienaylorcounsel
Mar 282 min read


Tis the season to be. . . . . . . . . .
As I wind down to close of practice for the festive season, I am reminded of the time of year and ‘tis the season. ’ The starkness of...
julienaylorcounsel
Dec 19, 20242 min read


Sometimes................. A letter from your therapist.
Sometimes, I wonder how you even made it through my door (after all that you’ve been through). Sometimes, I marvel at how you carry all...
julienaylorcounsel
Oct 18, 20241 min read


On living your best life. Maybe. Kinda. . . . . . . . . .
We’ve all heard the phrase – seen the posts, read the books. There’s even a ‘living my best life’ song on repeat, accompanying countless...
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Aug 1, 20242 min read


When the memories hit. . . . . . . . . .
Last weekend I went swimming to a local leisure centre. As I walked towards the pool area, I felt a visceral memory surge. I immediately...
julienaylorcounsel
Jun 14, 20242 min read


A little thing I just had to say. . . . . . . . . .
This week, I watched our Prime Minister offer a speech on reforming welfare. Whilst I am a therapist, not a politician, in essence, the...
julienaylorcounsel
Apr 26, 20242 min read


How do you know what you need?
“What do you need?” “Errrr, sorry?” “What do you need?” “Uh, I don’t know.” “Haven’t a clue.” The above is commonplace, particularly in...
julienaylorcounsel
Apr 12, 20242 min read


Expectations. . . . . . . . . .
What’s expected of you? Is it to be brave? Beautiful? Clever? Quiet? Hard working? Composed? Strong? Handsome? Level-headed? ...
julienaylorcounsel
Mar 28, 20242 min read


What if I'm the only one who. . . . . . . . . .
I have a visceral memory of being at primary school. I was seven years old. It was music class (my favourite) and the teacher was...
julienaylorcounsel
Mar 9, 20242 min read


When old patterns re-emerge. Yes, even for therapists.....
Last weekend, I sat down to experiment (have a play) with watercolour paints. Although I’d never describe myself as ‘an artist’, I have...
julienaylorcounsel
Feb 24, 20243 min read


'THE THING' that we just cannot say in therapy..........................
You’re sitting on the chair in your therapy session. You’re going through the motions. You’re there, but you’re not. Your therapist is...
julienaylorcounsel
Feb 10, 20243 min read


Lessons from my dog walks. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
I like to go out walking most days. It’s become a kind of meditative practice for me. I enjoy being as present as I can. This...
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Jan 27, 20243 min read


Sometimes, things are just hard. . . . . . . . .
In life, sometimes, things can be really, reeeaaalllyyy hard. They just can. Things like (but not limited to): · Times · ...
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Jan 13, 20242 min read


If I go to therapy, they'll 'make me'...........................
“I could probably do with speaking to someone about stuff, but there’s no way I’m going to.” I hear this a lot (especially when I meet...
julienaylorcounsel
Dec 9, 20232 min read


Minds and heads and hearts, oh my....................
I’m sure I’m not the only one who has seen the quotes, the memes, the messages that go a little like: ‘Never let your heart rule your...
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Nov 11, 20233 min read


Let's talk about change. . . . . . . . . .
Change. Transitions. Alterations. Movement. We’ve all heard these words and might associate them with multiple different meanings. ...
julienaylorcounsel
Sep 9, 20233 min read


Therapists are there to 'fix you', aren't they???
You know the scene……………. Someone (the therapist) is sitting in a chair, dressed smartly, with a pen and a notebook, furiously scribbling...
julienaylorcounsel
Aug 26, 20233 min read


Summertime fun (ish).................
But it’s summertime. I’m supposed to be carefree and having fun, right? We’ve seen the pictures……… Folk cavorting in the sunshine, happy,...
julienaylorcounsel
Aug 6, 20232 min read


On my (almost) two year anniversary in private practice. . . .
As I sit here to write this, I am filled with a sense of open-hearted awe and wonder. Approaching almost two years in private practice,...
julienaylorcounsel
Jul 30, 20232 min read
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